“Bison do not run away and seek shelter from a storm like many other animals do.

They go right through it and face the hardest parts so that they can come out on the other side of it much faster. 

Jonna Jinton

When it comes to feeling fears that keep you from moving forward in life, isn’t it terrific?

Don’t you just want to hug your negative emotions and yell from the mountain tops, ‘I love you!!,’ so that the whole world knows it?  Gosh,…I mean they’re so reliably intolerable, offensive, suffocating and stultifying that you just can’t imagine life without them.  I know mine have been constant harassers looking to never let me forget that they are in charge as they appear in one fashion or another throughout my day.  

I kid, of course, about being blissful over our fears, but there may be something to this embracing of them.  It sounds counter to our fight or flight response when something doesn’t feel good. 

But what happens to our fears when we rail against them, ultimately?  They give up trying and just disappear?  I don’t believe so.  Or, is it that they find fuel from our rejection, our upset, our paralysis?

Yeah, yeah…That one!

By pushing against them do we successfully push them away or…do we empower them? 

From personal experience I know that the only way out is through.  By allowing our fears to hang around without running from or pushing them away, they eventually, in a way, acclimate to us as opposed to the other way around.  The less we fight them in our minds, cave to the discomfort they create and rail against their existence, the less power they have and the less we will suffer them.  

So, as it was offered to me, I now offer to you the concept of inviting your fears to tea. 

Or any occasion; breakfast, dinner, a picnic, whatever and wherever you are serving life. 

Offer these uncomfortable guests a seat. Embrace them. Tell them they can sit there but that you have better things to do than to push against them. The more you allow them to talk without shutting them up, the less you will hear them.  ‘You can have a seat next to me as I travel through my day, but now I will go on with life.  You can walk beside me but you don’t make the rules.’ 

Everyday is a never again day; a great person once told me.  Don’t hate on your fears.  Embrace them and then get ready to encounter more freely and fully your never again days!

Peace and Keep Rising

Published by riseup20

I am a retired teacher with a creative bent and I am excited to bring attention and assistance to parents and caregivers of children with special needs. Mark

One thought on “FEAR PARTY

  1. I booked a holiday overseas years ago. I was terrified of flying at the time. By my 7th flight I was cured. So many adventures since . Good post.


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